Alright fellas, this ones for you (Ladies, just casually send your boyfriends a link to this page. I got you!). So you are ready to propose to your girl, but you want to do something epic and unforgettable. Also, you want to not give away any hints and keep it a surprise proposal… no pressure at all, right??
Well my husband pulled off a surprise proposal in my favorite place in the world! Somehow he managed to make it work and truly surprise me, so if he can do it, you can do it!
Our proposal was the most amazing thing ever… in some ways it was more special than our actual wedding day! I want so badly for other couples to have a similar proposal experience, so here’s my tips for you guys:
Make. It. Meaningful. Please do not go to Paris just because that’s what people do in the movies. Go to Paris only if it’s a spot that she talks about ALL the time! Think of the places she’s mentioned she’d love to go, locations on her bucket list, or somewhere that she saw someone else traveling and got jealous!
OR, pick a spot the two of you have already been together that is super meaningful to you both. Somewhere you have vacationed before, a family cottage/summer house, the place you met/said I love you, etc. It doesn’t have to involve flights or a trip across the world if that’s not something you two typically do, driving distance is just as special!!
Okay, rings are hella expensive. I know. And so is planning and coordinating a trip on top of that. But there are ways to travel for cheap!!
Tip #1: Go in the off season! We went to Positano, Italy in March and we were able to get a super affordable AirBNB right on the coast because it was off-season. Sure, it was a little chilly and rainy some days. But we didn’t care! We were in Italy and we were ENGAGED!!
Tip #2: I always suggest staying in a room/condo/AirBNB with a kitchenette so you don’t have to eat out for every meal. When we travel, we like to buy things for breakfasts and lunches, and then only go out for dinners. Grab fruit, yogurt, eggs, sandwich supplies, etc. at a local market when you arrive. Then, make it fun by having breakfast in bed or packing a picnic for lunch and taking it somewhere in the town.
I’m sure you two have already been talking about getting married. You may have ring shopped together already. Or maybe you even starting making some wedding plans! So while she’s not going to be TOTALLY blindsided, it’s still important to catch her off guard in the moment or add an element to the proposal that she won’t be expecting.
When my husband (at the time boyfriend) told me he wanted to go to Italy, he disguised it as a birthday trip. We went over my birthday, and it all made sense because he knew this was my favorite place in the world and he wanted to take me there as a birthday gift. I was not expecting a proposal!
If you’re planning a surprise proposal and you don’t want her to get suspicious when you say “Hey, let’s go to Hawaii this year!” or “Let’s go to the beach on Saturday!,” my advice is to schedule it around a holiday, birthday, or your anniversary. Disguise it as a trip for one of those occasions, don’t randomly suggest taking a trip for no apparent reason.
This one is HUGE! Regardless of where or how you’re proposing! Men, DO NOT use the ring box. I repeat, DO NOT use the ring box.
Unless you frequently wear cargo pants with bulky pockets, the ring box in your pants pocket will certainly show and give away the surprise. You’d hate to do all this planning and preparation, then on the day of the proposal having her say “Babe what’s in your pocket?”…
My husband very cleverly sewed a zipper into his pants pocket. Prior to even leaving for the trip, he wrapped the ring in a cloth and zipped it into the pocket of the pants he was going to propose in. He just packed those pants in his suitcase and didn’t mess with it at all the whole trip. This is another reason he totally fooled me! I thought surely if he had a ring, I’d notice the box in his suitcase, or he’d be suspiciously with shutting his suitcase all the time…. but he wasn’t, so I thought nothing of it!
Think ahead about what outfit you’ll wear to propose in. Try it on far in advance and find a way to disguise the ring in it. Be SMART about it, don’t just leave the ring loose in a baggy pocket. Instead, try zipping it into a coat/jacket pocket, install a zipper in a pants pocket, or wrap it up and put it somewhere secure.
ALL that advice was a lot, but the more effort and planning you put in, the more seamless things will go on the day of so you two can be in the moment and make the most of it. If you want to check out our destination proposal experience, watch the video here!
PS if you need a photographer to capture her reaction…… let’s chat!!!